About a Friend
His name is Z, 19 years old boy. We live in the same hostel, he is a new comer in this hostel. When I first saw him I noticed one thing, that the way he walk is like Bronx gangster style of walking. Some other hostel friend used to come to me and tell about his behavior which they call rude, selfish, and doesn’t mingle with anybody. Gradually almost all the hoteliers from my hostel wing (there are 2 wings in my floor) reported to me his unfriendly behavior. I came late to hostel, I just finished my vacation in Depok, so that’s why I do not know him well.Hearing all this then I tried to observe him more intensely, then I came to know that he doesn’t speak English well, he likes basketball very much, and practice basketball on every afternoon in Jamia Ground.
Then I started my ‘treatment’ to him. My goal was to make him mingle with everyone.
Because he doesn’t speak English well, so whenever I meet him I try to communicate with him in a simple way, just ‘hi’ or ‘hello’, I do not want to say a so long sentence that he can’t understand me, and make him not reply me. My first ‘hi’ answered by him by nodding up his head, ‘good’ I thought, after a few times he began to answer me by hi or hello, not a longer conversation yet but it was progressing.
One day I asked him to play basketball together and he looked so surprised and said yes. Then on the next day I asked my Afghanistan and Vietnamese friend to join me and Z to play basketball, so we play together. In fact that Z play very well. The Games make us relax and enjoy, gradually after that day Z become closer to three of us.
Don’t judge a book by it’s cover, that’s the popular proverb. After getting to know each other I found soft part of him, that he loves his mom very much. One day he asked me to take his picture using my digital camera, because he want to sent the picture to his mom, he said his mom has been very worried about his condition, and he asked me to make him look fat on the picture so that his mom will feel happy. One other thing is he sent almost all of his scholarship money to his mother and just left some rupees for him self, the amount which forced him to live in a very simple way.
So, don’t judge a book by it’s cover..
Labels: Daily Life
posted by Lukman Nul Hakim at 3:37 AM
4 Comments:
Hello "Key of Luck",
Am thinking here that ya "Z" Zoya, Zaya, Zet whoever faced a cultura shock or inhibition. I don't know well but i guess so.
He might have inhibition coz of language barriers, or have a cultural shock.
I know one friend as well like him, i heard he doesn't talk to others, classmates. i met him and asked to be free with us as friendly. actually he is passive. but i hear that he'z very, much beta active other place with other people.
If that's really inhibition then he'd beta to appreciate the situation. he'd beta to break the ice as going forward to other fellows. Without interacting there will be no step.
Ya we all beta to support n be kindly towards such fellas.
P.S. I & my friends are coming to play basketball there then as managing our time and schedule.
Plus, about that selfishness or rudeness, i wna comment sumth. If in India it is quite diffrent, the locals are willing to interrupt or intervene in our privacy. In fact this is just only their kindness and just we, foreigners are exotic to them.
But for foreigners it is quite problem. To ask religion, salary, family condition etc. very sensitive topic and its kinda privacy. and they are not selfish or rude, just they want their space for themselves for their RESPECTED privacy.
Hello, Key of Luck! Yea, i got ya comment in ma blogs as well.
There i am not advocating him. You please feel calm if i did make you worry about sumth.lol. Nyways i got ya idea and opinion at the very first.
N i talked with him n mentioned ya name he was like sparkled and his voice was vivacious when he heard ya name. ya you people really rocking na.
And im nothing do here, lol. Ok, Gud Luck man,
Tnx :)
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